What I do in these situations is disconnect for a while, keep my distance. Even if you're were willing to talk to her about some of the specific issues bothering you, she'd probably need to acquire some of her own time and distance from her current drama to even understand, let alone absorb, what it is you'd have to… » 10/19/14 9:04pm Sunday 9:04pm

Do you feel the compulsion to do this in all spaces or just predominantly non black spaces? Like, I definitely always display social solidarity with the other black girl at the mostly white party, but when I'm just walking through Harlem or the Bronx, ain't nobody got time for a half million head nods. » 10/16/14 4:16pm Thursday 4:16pm

But what frustrates me about this particular piece is that she, in exposing how horrible people can be, became herself complicit in subjecting every black attendee to racism or misogynoir. I passed up multiple invitations to attend the exhibit with friends because I had no intention of being placed in that position… » 10/15/14 1:38pm Wednesday 1:38pm

I do find it relevant because kids on the autism spectrum are often gullible, vulnerable to manipulation, and eager to fit in. They're easier targets. My Aspie ex described the ways in which his one childhood "friend" took constant advantage of him, swindling him out of valuable baseball cards, generally pumping him… » 10/15/14 12:12pm 10/15/14 12:12pm

If Teresa hadn't told Dina, Jim's outburst have just come across as a below the belt "yo mama" crack for which no one reacting would have had any context. But in the inevitable rehashing that seems to follow such a argument, they would have found out that the barb referred to a rumor and that VG was the source of that… » 10/15/14 10:56am 10/15/14 10:56am